Do You Suspect Your
Spouse is Having an
written by: Coleta Stewart
Do You Suspect Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair?
Do You Suspect Your Spouse is Having an Emotional
What do you do when you suspect that your spouse is having an emotional affair? Your first
impulse might be to check up on your spouse’s messages, whether it’s texting, phone
records, or emails. The advent of new technologies like the internet and cell phones bring
with them new challenges and opportunities for a spouse to be unfaithful if they want to.
Once you discover that your spouse has formed a close attachment with someone else, and
their relationship has apparently stepped over the boundary from friendship or a working
relationship to one of a more intimate nature, you may undergo a range of reactions like:
feeling guilty about snooping around your spouse's private messages
feeling sad because your mate chooses to share a connection with someone else
instead of you
• anger at your spouse for putting time and effort into a relationship when it is clearly
your marriage that needs work
feeling neglected because you and your mate now only share mundane news
• you may feel defensive because your husband for wife is on your case for going
through their private business
More often than not the the person that is having an emotional affair knows that their
behavior has crossed the line. It usually does not feel right to have this kind of intimate
relationship outside of marriage and that is the main reason why the cheating spouse tries to
hide the truth.
At this time you might be wondering whether the relationship has evolved into a physical
one despite your mate's claim to the contrary. That is usually hard to tell and anything is
possible, particularly since your spouse went to great effort to conceal the relationship.
On the other hand, if you spouse is truthful with you and admits to at least having an
emotional affair, then that's a step in the right