We all go through trials and tribulations in life. We experience pain, discomfort, sadness and disappointment as human beings. We know what it is like to feel down and in the dark. When we experience these feelings most of us don’t like it.
January 1, 2019
HOW TO GET OUT OF A “NEGATIVE SPIRAL”
We all go through trials and tribulations in life. We experience pain, discomfort, sadness
and disappointment as human beings. We know what it is like to feel down and in the
dark. When we experience these feelings most of us don’t like it. We want to escape it. We
want to change the way we feel. Some people turn to “quick fixes” that ultimately do more
harm than good. Some people use drugs or alcohol, some people overindulge in food or
shopping, some people socialize too much or even completely isolate from their friends
and loved ones. But what if e looked at these feelings differently? What if we decided to
choose another option, another perspective? What if we make a conscious decision to
view our trials and tribulations as something positive that is happening in our lives? There
are more options than just choosing a “quick fix” when it comes to coping with
Understanding that you have options is the first step in changing your perspective of life
events for the better. Some people may feel this is an impossible feat. I don’t blame you.
Getting through discomfort and pain is not an easy task. Now don’t get me wrong, grief is
real. Pain is real. Discomfort is real and these feelings are a part of being human and it’s
okay to experience them. But suffering and feeling “stuck” because of these feelings is
optional. We don’t have to feel trapped and stuck. When we learn how to view each
experience in our lives in a positive light, it can lead to something amazing: Changes in
schemata and perspective; a change in the way we view the world around us, the people in
our lives, and most importantly, ourselves.
Let’s say you are in a relationship that has just ended and you are feeling miserable.
Sadness, pain, and sorrow fill your thoughts. How will you respond to those feelings?
Here are a few of your options:
Option 1 – you can stay miserable and feel like you will never find another