We Got Game: Self-Pleasuring Play for Couples
The sensual world inhabited by a couple is a beautiful and fascinating thing
and one that shouldn't be self-limited by the participants. Coupling is, of
course, a huge part of that world, as well it should be. Many couples include
oral play or "back door" activity in the mix as well. But surprisingly, self-
pleasuring is not generally included as an activity for a couple to share. Sure,
each partner may engage in private self-pleasuring (with men often
including that as part of their regular male organ care routine), but many
couples never self-stimulate in front of or with each other. Yet much can be
learned from this activity.
If self-pleasuring is viewed as a game between two partners, it can help take
a little of the "edge" off of trying it initially. And once a couple gets used to
self-fondling together, they may find that they want to include the activity as
a more regular part of their sensual lives.
Games people play
So what games involve self-pleasuring? There can be quite a few, actually.
Self-pleasuring dice. A pair of dice can be used to create any number
of games. For example, a partner rolls the dice. If it is even, the man
starts self-gratifying; if it is odd, the woman. That person must
continue self-pleasuring until their partner's "side" is rolled.
Stroking cards. As with dice, there are many different games a
couple can create using playing cards. One simple game is for one
partner to turn over the top card of a deck and for the other partner to
stroke or rub their genitals the number of times indicated on a card.
(For example, a 4 of clubs would mean stroking or rubbing 4 times.)
Play continues until release or until the couple decides to dispense
with the cards and keep self-stimulating or engage in another form of
Alternatively, a couple can play a game like Crazy 8s, but arrange for
one person to keep self