7 Steps on How to Save a Relationship
Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for her. Lisbet spends all of her
time meeting the children’s needs and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs?
Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? Here’s how to save a relationship.
First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth saving. While almost every
relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to
make it work. Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back in, there
is little that can be done.
Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or remain in a marriage
because of the children. But that is not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a
commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.
Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship. One of the biggest
problems in how to save a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the
problem are the problem itself.
For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In truth,
the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can
lead to a straying spouse. While most people look at the affair as the problem, the
underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. If
you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from
starting through the use of guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could
pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.
When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the
Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This
means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns.
Hold your partner’s had when you are talking about your problems as a signal that you
want to recon