THE CAV E AT R E P O RT
N E W S F R O M H E A D OFFICE FOR O U R F R I E N D S A N D S U P P O RT E R S
D E C E M B E R 1 9 9 9
“A Love That Kills” goes National
By Gillian Ju d k i n s
On October 7, 1991, nineteen-year-old Mo n i c a
Drake was brutally stabbed to death by her ex-
b oyfriend, Adam. Monica was a happy young girl
who had a close relationship with her friends and
f a m i l y, especially her mother, Dawna Speers. T h a t
was until she met Adam. For two years, Mo n i c a
dated Adam and eventually moved in with him.
Adam began to isolate Mo n i c a
f rom her friends and family and
Dawna watched as her daughter
quickly became quiet and sub-
s e rvient to Ad a m .
The warning signs of abuse
became more evident when Ad a m
and Monica moved in together.
Monica had to account for her whereabouts at all
times and although Adam didn't work, he expect-
ed Monica to work full time, while catering to his
e ve ry need. He would take her paycheque fro m
her and give her an allowance, an obvious form
of economic abuse.
Monica kept in close contact with her mother
and often expressed concern over Adam's behav-
i o u r. Dawna would re a s s u re her daughter that her
concerns we re well-founded and that in healthy
relationships, partners don't treat each other that
w a y. Monica eventually left Adam. On Oc t o b e r
7th, he found and murd e red her in her new apart-
m e n t .
Dawna has presented Monica's story to thou-
sands of high school students across Canada in
o rder to try and teach young people about the dan-
gers of controlling relationships. She speaks can-
didly about Monica's situation and her attempts
to help Monica see that the relationship was
u n h e a l t h y. She explains that she kept the doors
open with Monica and that she never pre s s u re d
Monica to leave Adam for fear of isolating her
daughter even furt h e r.
On November 2nd of this ye a r, the film, "A Love
That Kills" was released by the
National Film Board with the sup-
p o rt of the Ontario Wo m e n ' s
Di rectorate and CAV E AT.