Married to a Doll: Why One Man Advocates
Davecat lives with his wife and mistress, both dolls, and thinks synthetic partners are ideal for
those who don't want to deal with humans' inconsistencies.
Davecat with his mistress, Elena (left) and wife Sidore (right). (Renato
Davecat met his future wife, Sidore Kuroneko at a goth club in 2000, so the
story goes. The less romantic but perhaps more true version is that he saved
up for a year and a half to buy her online. She cost about $6,000.
Sidore is a RealDoll, manufactured by Abyss Creations in the shape of a
human woman. She is covered in artificial skin made of silicone, so she‟s
soft. These high-end, anatomically correct—even equipped with fake
tongues—love dolls (or capital-D Dolls) are ostensibly made for sex. But
40-year-old Davecat (a nickname acquired from videogames that he now
prefers to go by) and others who call themselves iDollators see their dolls as
life partners, not sex toys. Davecat and Sidore (or, as he sometimes calls
her, Shi-chan) obviously aren‟t legally married, but they do have matching
wedding bands that say “Synthetik [sic] love lasts forever,” and he says
they‟re considering some sort of ceremony for their 15th anniversary.
Davecat considers himself an activist for synthetic love, and the rights of
synthetic humans, such as Shi-chan. He‟s active online, with an iDollator
blog, “Shouting to hear the echoes,” that he updates regularly, and has
appeared on TLC‟s show My Strange Addiction, as well as in a BBC
documentary called Guys and Dolls.
According to the backstory of Davecat‟s relationships, his Doll mistress
(and Sidore‟s girlfriend), Elena Vostrikova, saw Davecat and Sidore in Guys
and Dolls and moved from Russia to be with them. Davecat purchased
Elena, or Lenka, in 2012, and the three of them now share a one-bedroom
apartment in southeastern Michigan.
I spoke with Davecat over email about the ups and downs of synthetic
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