Stop Stressing - Do, Defer, Delegate
Sometimes the problem that we're dealing with isn't necessarily a matter of the stress itself, but rather the way we're approaching it. After all, we can't
lay all the blame on outside forces â€” we do make our own problems just as often.
Fortunately, this also means that we can correct those same problems that we've made. Most of the difficulties we find ourselves engineering are
easily controlled and modified with a bit of careful effort.
The best example of this situation is in our tendency to over commit ourselves to various tasks, trying to give everyone our personal attention when
this clearly is not always possible. We want to be responsible people and live up to our best ability, but that shouldn't come at the expense of our
health and mental well-being. What we need to learn to do is analyze, categorize and prioritize our efforts.
Step One â€” Analyze
Just knowing more about our problems can help us do what needs to be done to get them under control. This is why our Stop Stressing program puts
such an emphasis on keeping personal logs. If you've been keeping up with your stress log, you already have a great tool to help you start organizing
Look at your stress log for the last two weeks. See what kinds of tasks keep coming up, as well as looking at those that only appear every now and
then, or on single occasions. Don't make any decisions just yet; you're trying to study, not act.
Consider what is involved in each of these stressors. Did you have to commit to a long-term effort? Could someone else have handled it? Did it
genuinely have to be done right away, or could it have waited? Consider these sorts of questions for each stressor you've encountered lately.
Step Two â€” Categorize
Now that you have a bit more of a picture about the specific events that are bringing you stress, let's look at the ones that you can control vs. the ones
Uncontrollable stressors are ones that we really can't deal with directly. This would include difficult traffic