Here is an interesting thought;
Gravity sometimes doesn't work.
Some things are both waves and particles. . .at the same time.
Electrons simply disappear . . . all the time.
If the universe is this wild and unpredictable, so full of possibility, why are our thoughts about our
own lives so limited?
Codependency recovery involves learning to take responsibility for our own actions, feelings
behavior, issues and lives.
All of that stuff starts in my brain.
So codependency recovery is a full time job. For me, it is summed up in the words, "Awareness
gives me choice."
And that awareness must be running in the background if not the foreground of my consciousness
constantly, because I can call up a codependent response to any set of cues in my environment
anytime, and usually that response is way too powerful to the current circumstances.
Lots of folks working on codependency recovery, as they learn the characteristics of
codependency, can identify the thoughts they have that are codependent (victim thoughts for
example) or the feelings, or the behaviors. I usually feel fear in my belly and can identify that
rather than a thought.
So when I feel that fear, I can begin to do relaxation, take a deep breath, do my HeartMath, ect.
to diminish the feeling, then the thoughts can follow.
The memorized codependent response happens a little bit faster than I can create words of caution
in my head, so awareness has to be a constant function.
I first came across the concept of codependency when I read a book by Sharon
Wegscheider-Cruse called Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family. (I am almost positive that is
the correct title).
I was amazed by her work, because she was describing my family with a tremendous amount of
accuracy, right down to the roles (jobs) the children in the family are offered and interview for and
sign up for.
I was early in my own recovery then and not in a relationship, so I focused on the family aspects
of codependency, my role in my family and h