The following relationship advice will help you minimize marriage problems
and avoid being a divorce statistic.
By Dennis Rainey
A woman once shared with me her
view of marriage:
"It's as though I'm scanning a desert
with a pair of binoculars. Everywhere I
look I see bodies strewn about in
various stages of death and dying --
divorce, isolation, abusive and
decayed relationships, all types of
devastation. After viewing this I ask
myself, Why would I want to begin that
Many students today are asking the
same question. Although they deeply
desire the security and joy of a lifelong
relationship, they fear marriage. One new bride said in a Newsweek article: "I
had watched my parents' marriage fall apart, and I didn't know if I could keep
Results of High Divorce Rate Statistics
No generation reaching the age to marry has ever brought with it more
baggage related to family breakdown. In the United States more than one
million children each year experience the breakup of their families.2
A large number of students remember experiences like this:
Mary: One afternoon she came home from school and met her father coming
out the door with a suitcase. He was leaving the family. "I'll be back to see
you, Honey," he said. Mary's father kissed her on top of the head and left.
She hasn't seen him since.
Robert: His parents divorced when he was five. He has lived with his mother
who married three other men and drinks way too much. His first stepfather
beat him up one time when Robert spilled a Coke in the car.
Carrie: Her parents are still married but heavily focused on their lucrative
careers. Her dad and mom seldom attended her orchestra concerts during
high school, and now that she's away at college, she rarely speaks to either
of them. When the family communicates, usually it's by email or messages
on their answering machines.
Philip: During junior high Philip was awakened one night by the sounds of his
parents arguing. He heard a crash and a scream. Philip fo