Apology Letter – Guidelines
• Do not blame the victim for what YOU did.
• Accept what you have done and what has happened, and write a sincere apology.
If a letter in not approved, you will have to write it again until you have written a true apology
to your victim.
• Each letter should be 5-7 sentences or more.
• Ask for help from a parent, teacher or counselor if needed.
When apologizing, be specific about what you did to the victim.
Not acceptable: “I apologize for getting into a fight with you”, (be more specific).
“I apologize for punching you in the stomach and swearing at you.”
Explain why you were so upset at the victim.
Not acceptable: “I don’t really know why I was mad”
“I was mad at you because you got me mad by yelling at me”
“I was upset at you because you yelled at me in front of my friends”
“I was angry at you because you made fun of me in front of everyone and I
Tell the victim you will never hurt them again, and explain why.
Not acceptable: “I will not hit you again because I don’t want to get arrested again”
“I promise that I will never hit you again because I now know that hitting is not
the correct way to express my feelings.”
Your letter should include:
Dear ______________________, (victim’s full name)
I apologize for ____________________________ (be specific about what you did to the victim).
I was __________________________ (use 1 word that best describes your feelings at the time)
because _________________________. (explain what the victim did to make you feel this way)
I promise that I will never hurt you again because _______________________________
(what have you learned from this
experience, be sincere to the victim)
In the future I will _____________________________ (what will you do differently in the future)
(your full name &
your RAPS / PRIDE#)