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Heartfulness Sept ember 2018 3 Dear readers, The subject of evolution never ceases to intrigue us. From the amoeba to the human being, life on Earth manifests in different forms and states of consciousness. This raises some questions: can human beings evolve further? How much of that evolution is about expanding consciousness? And how much is about going beyond consciousness? What methods can help us? In this issue, our writers explore these questions, including the yogic state of Samadhi, the topic of 'Who Am I?' and synchronicity. We bring you Daaji's interview by the hosts of Spirit Matters Podcast, Dennis Raimondi and Philip Goldberg, and also the concluding part of the interview with French artist Fabienne Verdier. There are articles on fear and grief, the benefits of reading, and another inspiring lesson from the garden. Today, consciousness is a very popular buzzword in psychology, neuroscience and mind-body medicine, but it is worth reflecting upon the words of the great yogi, Ram Chandra of Shahjahanpur, who wrote, "Consciousness is only a toy for children to play with. We have to reach a point where consciousness assumes its true form (i.e. what it really ought to be). We have to make a search for the Mother Tincture from which medicines are actually prepared. We are searching for the potentiality that creates consciousness, and if that too is gone, then we find ourselves on the verge of true Reality." So are we missing the wood for the trees? We always look forward to receiving your original articles, poetry, photography and artwork at firstname.lastname@example.org. The editors and Beyond Consciousness 20 Everyday perspectives Q&A On Consciousness 08 Self-awareness Victor Kannan Who Am I? 12 focus 06 thought in action Empathy Chris Mehalovich Lessons in a Divided World 22 Business relationships Ravi Venkatesan The Heartful Negotiator Part 8 24 Consciousness Jamie Butler Vibrations 26 interview Spirit matters Interview with Daaji A Personal Journey 36 34 in the field Interfaith harmony Reverend Deborah Moldow Convergence in the Land of Origins 16 taste of life Lessons from the garden Alanda Greene Blackberry Learnings 68 Originality Fabienne Verdier Awakening Dynamic Imagination Part 2 72 Heartfulness Yogasanas Purna Titali Asana Series 78 66 be inspired 52 what's up 80 desk of daaji 79 Science of spirituality Daaji Ashtanga Yoga - Samyama part 4 54 Science of spirituality Swami Vivekananda Samadhi and Superconsciousness 62 it changes everything Working with challenges Francois Bouderlique The Challenge of Our Time 44 Books Vilasini Kumar Read and Enjoy 48 Courage A Madhusudhan Reddy When Fear Knocks 49 42 ocus f This world, this universe which our senses feel, or our mind thinks, is but one atom, so to say, of the Infinite, projected on to the plane of consciousness; and within that narrow limit, defined by the network of consciousness, works our reason, and not beyond. Therefore, there must be some other instrument to take us beyond, and that instrument is called inspiration. Swami Vivekananda Q R & KAREN O' NEILL Heartfulness Fellow New Delhi, India 'Consciousness' is derived from the Latin words conscius, meaning 'to know' or 'to be aware', and conscrire, meaning 'to be mutually aware'. Consciousness extends beyond oneself and includes awareness of our environment and our connection with others. I believe in Swami Vivekananda's saying that consciousness is a mere film between two oceans, the subconscious and the superconscious. This film becomes more permeable as I delve further into those parts of my consciousness that usually exist outside my spectrum of awareness. I have also found that this permeability continues throughout the night and I am able to recall my dreams in vivid detail. Keeping a dream journal alongside my meditation-diary has also helped me to explore parts of my Hear tfulne ss 8 1 2 3 What is c onsciousne ss? How do you per sonally explore the subc onscious and superc onscious par ts o f your c onsciousne ss spectrum? What de fine s t oday's c ollective human c onsciousne ss? Consciousness is the depth of human understanding. We think on MANAV BENIWAL Pre-med Student Dayton, Ohio, USA Consciousness is awareness, and it is also intuition and vision. Also, with experience, I have noticed that the more I meditate the more my consciousness opens. For example, earlier, in the same situation, I would not have reacted in the same manner as I do now. I think I am able to explore my subconscious and superconscious really through intuition and meditation, because intuition comes from the heart. I feel that the collective human consciousness is moving. People are more and more aware of their heart, and they want to go deep into their heart. Many young people have this awareness today. consciousness which were otherwise unknown. There are events in our history, especially violent and traumatic ones, which weigh heavily on human memory and consciousness. I believe that through methods such as the cleaning process, we are actively preventing the formation of new impressions and creating an egregore of peace, love and joy. We are aiming for the purification of consciousness to its highest, and this is what is shaping the collective human consciousness today. a conscious level, from where we see and understand the real world. But outside that we have our conscious self, which we do not know or fully understand but can listen to. So in my mind, consciousness is something we can get in touch with by looking inside of ourselves. I look inside myself and try to listen to the voice of my heart, and while doing so I can feel the intricacies of the subconscious and the superconscious. The subconscious is where we have all of our thoughts and predilections, whereas the superconscious is where we have to go, where our ultimate destination is. In meditation I am learning to understand both better. At first I think of our collective consciousness as everyone in the entire world not only our intentions and thoughts, but our general attitude towards the world, towards ourselves and our fellow human beings. But when I think deeper, it's the idea that you, I and everyone else in this world are one. We are all One. If we are all part of that same inner consciousness, then the collective consciousness is just our need and desire to move back towards It. ELODIE REQUILLART Product Manager Lille, France Sept ember 2018 9 Consciousne ss The simple answer is that consciousness is our awareness, but I think consciousness is much more than simple awareness. It is part of us; it's part of our subtle body. It's also an agent for us to think, move, act and make decisions with too. Impressions are deep-rooted within us because of our childhood and conditioning by the environment. Our interactions leave an impression on us, which takes place in our subconscious. Superconsciousness is something that I personally didn't know exists until I started meditation. When we dive deep within ourselves, ADITYA BARRELA Investment Promotion Consultant Hyderabad, India the consciousness that we have, which is our natural state, expands and reaches new heights. That condition becomes the new normal, our new consciousness; it becomes natural to us. Then there is a new level of superconsciousness waiting for us, and that's what is interesting. Consciousness evolves in nature. It can devolve in rare cases, but I think collectively as a species we're going through major changes, shifts, leaps in our perception. We're waking up to the truth that happiness is not outside but inside us. There is a saying that "We are drowning in information, while starving for wisdom." I think that also summarizes today's collective consciousness. We've so much information and data, but we don't know how to make use of it, how to intuitively navigate through the chaos, through the VUCA world we have created for ourselves (VUCA means Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous). We also have a VUCA world inside us, and unless we simplify the inside, our collective consciousness is burdened, it cannot evolve. KAUSHALENDR A PR ATAP SINGH Management Student Lucknow, India Consciousness is the foundation on which anything happens, has happened, or will happen in the future. I have a very small glimpse of my subconscious when my intuition tells me the truth or when I see dreams. I'm still exploring superconsciousness. I believe in a collective consciousness where each and every individual contributes in a very large way. The environment of a place changes with the mindsets of people. For example, a hospital may have a very shocking or fearful environment. In a very serene place, like a hill station, we can feel joyfulness and peacefulness because of this collective consciousness to which we all contribute. The intention with which we do or pursue things contributes to that environment. Our thoughts and intentions make up the collective consciousness, which is seen or perceived or known by the environment around. Consciousne ss Hear tfulne ss 10 Sept ember 2018 11 Knowing the self is a topic of great interest in psychology and also in philosophy. VICTOR KANNAN reflects on this question that has been intriguing us from time immemorial, and shares the insights he has gained from introspection. AM I Hear tfulne ss 12 ? 1 https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shift-mind/201006/who-am-i 2 https://bhagavadgitablog1.wordpress.com/2013/09/05/chapter-2-sankhya-yogah-topic-of-knowledge/ I am a manifestation of where I put my attention, which is supporting my intention. A ll aspects of existence temporal and real are included in this question, who am I? The idea of who I can be and who I ought to be are also part of this larger question. A simple 10-minute introspective exercise takes us through several answers that reveal our roles, temperaments, achievements and relationships, and eventually our potentiality. Mel Schwartz, blogger of 'A Shift of Mind', writes in Psychology Today, "The universe purportedly exists in a state of flowing potential. And it is essential to understand that we are indeed part of that universe. The goal then is to access that potential, keeping the parts of our identity that continue to serve us well and shedding the old, habitual pieces that constrain us. This process is known as positive disintegration. This permits us to find balance between the extremes and enter into a relationship with self that commits to our personal evolution." 1 Swami Brahmavidananda, in his expositions on the Bhagavad Gita, writes, "The search for identity is nothing new; it is as old as the human race. One recognizes instinctively that one is more than what one has believed oneself to be. 'Who am I?' is the most fundamental question. If you understand that, everything in Vedanta is answered." 2 In the past I have explored God as a principle instead of a named entity: what is God rather than who is God? There have been several attempts to define God by various philosophers and saints from different cultures and eras in history. The Hindu philosophy accommodates a wide range of possibilities of defining who or what God is, and puts them all into two categories: gods with forms and attributes are in the category of akar, and the definitions of God without any form or attribute are clubbed into nirakar. 'Who' bogs us down in the akar and 'what' leads us to nirakar. 'Who' gives God a form and name? It is we humans who identify God and assign it a name that is man- given. Hence, to me God as a principle makes the most sense. It belongs to the nirakar category, and the right question would be 'What is God?' not 'Who is God?' If there is any parallel for humans, then the question for us would also address what I am instead of who I am. Sept ember 2018 13 Self -a warene ss SO, WHAT AM I? According to Schwartz, I am a potential. Is this potential a driving force, and until I understand and achieve this potential do I keep changing? In other words, does who I am keep changing until it is synonymous with what I am? As I considered these questions, something in me expanded and a simple revelation emerged: I am a manifestation of where I put my attention, which is supporting my intention. I AM is composed of Intention leading to Attention leading to Manifestation. An intention may be positive or negative, deliberately acquired in this moment or inherent to our nature. But in that deliberate, volitional space of our existence we can act to acquire positive or negative intentions. Life is a school; we can learn to change our intentions, as we learn from their past manifestations and their implications. If we are not born with positive intentions we can acquire them. If we are born with negative intentions we can change them. Irrespective of whether our intentions are deliberate and conscious or autonomous and unconscious, we change constantly, so what we manifest also changes constantly. From that point of view, if we change constantly, who 'I am' also changes constantly. When this reaches a level of constancy, 'I am what I ought to be', that is, a unified individual fully integrated and balanced. Here both my inside and outside match. What I mean, what I say and how I act are all part of my integrated personality. HOW CAN WE WORK WITH THE I AM EQUATION TO REACH OUR FULL POTENTIAL? One thing we can do is to cultivate positive intentions. This brings us to the attention part of the equation. Attention is a cognitive process in which we notice, pause, learn, and then act to manifest the intention more effectively. It is a skill, and when we develop it into a habit, it becomes a continual and dynamic process of transformation. When we finally manifest our intention via attention and action, these manifestations then produce their own results in our life. These results, whatever they may be, good or bad, painful or desirable, form a part of the next reaction pattern influencing our HOW DO WE FORM INTENTIONS? An intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. An intention involves mental activity such as planning and forethought. An intention constantly evolves. It seems to emanate from some place deeper within our consciousness. This consciousness is a constantly transforming and evolving inner space and hence is dynamic. It is the result of our heartbrain mind interaction with the environment and the way we process that interaction. The uniqueness with which each one of us processes this interaction is due to the particular signature we have on our consciousness at any moment in time. I INTENTION ATTENTION MANIFESTATION A M Hear tfulne ss 14 Self -a warene ss 3 The Evolution of Consciousness is a huge subject in itself, which is dealt with exhaustively by Daaji in his series http://www. heartfulnessmagazine.com/evolution-of-consciousness/. Attention is a cognitive process in which we notice, pause, learn, and then act to manifest the intention more effectively. It is a skill, and when we develop it into a habit, it becomes a continual and dynamic process of transformation. consciousness. This then becomes a new basis for the next intention to surface. So intention, attention, manifestation, its consequences and our learning all contribute to our transformation of consciousness. Since intention arises from our consciousness, the purity of consciousness determines the type of intention we will have. The rest is a process of manifestation, and the level of purity of consciousness determines the nature of manifestation. Thus, who I am is largely predicated by what I am as a level of consciousness.3 At times we are not able to achieve the self-development goal we had set out to achieve. There are hindrances, which are the manifestations of prior intentions and circumstances that we have created. The complex mixture of all our previous intentions, attentions and manifestations is the base we live in and must transcend. Each of us can make that leap by overcoming our old self, changing old circumstances, and creating new intentions that manifest through positive attention in a new self. If we don't like who we are, we can change, for our potential is nothing short of spectacular. This is the great transformation. When we evolve to a place of constancy and purity, then our intention, attention and manifestation become consistent with that constancy, which is the potentiality that Schwartz talks about in 'A Shift of Mind'. When we reach and realize that state of mind and feeling, awareness and intuition, intellect and wisdom, confidence and humility, we reach a state of absolute balance. That potential is what I ought to be. When I reach there, then I can say "This I am," or "That thou art.". Sept ember 2018 15 Self -a warene ss Highlights from REVEREND DEBORAH MOLDOW 's account of the U Day Interfaith gathering in Ethiopia. To ignite a Global Fire of One Love, first you need a powerful spark! The flame was lit in February 2018 in Ethiopia, the Land of Origins, by 65 cultural, spiritual, religious and musical ambassadors from around the world who gathered for a 'Convergence of Fire'. Unity Earth, in partnership with the United Religions Initiative, the Inter-Religious Council of Ethiopia and the World Peace Prayer Society, brought together the indigenous peoples of Australia, North and Central America; Buddhist monks from Thailand; Sikhs, Baha'is, Sufis and Hindus from India; and Jews, Christians and Muslims; all standing for unity, peace and compassion. January 30 to February 7, 2018, was World Interfaith Harmony Week. Highlights of the 7-day U Day festival included visiting sacred sites in Lalibela and Shashamane, a C onvergence in the Land of Origins IN THE FIELDHear tfulne ss 16 'Convergence of Fire' torch-lighting ceremony, and an impressive event at the African Union. The mission of the U Day gatherings is to bring people into joyful harmony through interfaith understanding and the common language of music. The group journeyed to the UNESCO World Heritage site at Lalibela, and were warmly welcomed by the priests in an ancient, moving ceremony. They visited the extraordinary 13th century churches carved into stone, offering prayers in this special atmosphere infused with deep faith. Mr Qumelachew Muluneh Taye of the Inter-Religious Council of Ethiopia, observed: "You have done here a very historical work. It was the first time in the history of our country that many faith-based organizations speak together in one language according to their religion." Sept ember 2018 17 In t er faith In t er faith The Convergence of Fire ceremony was held in Lalibela on a hilltop over 2,500 meters high on January 31, which offered both a super moon and a lunar eclipse. Indigenous leaders from Mexico, Canada and Australia joined together to build a sacred fire and lead a Four Directions ceremony. This was followed by the Convergence of Fire, after which three torches were lit: the Torch of Compassion, which was used worldwide in the Compassion Games; the Torch of Peace, which was passed around the world in the First Earth Run in 1986 in partnership with the United Nations Children's Fund; and the Lamp of Unity from Chiang Mai, Thailand, where U Day first took place in 2012. The African Union event, organized in partnership with Ambassador Mussie Hailu, African Regional Director of the United Religions Initiative, featured the president of Ethiopia, Dr Mulatu Teshome, the Patriarch of the Ethiopian Orthodox Church, leaders of the Inter-Religious Council of Ethiopia, and other local dignitaries, along with the U Day delegates. All spoke of the value of harmony among people of diverse religions and the significance of the Golden Rule in demonstrating the common values across religious divides. President Teshome mentioned that the General Assembly Resolution establishing World Interfaith Harmony Week is based on the shared principles of love of God and love of neighbor. He noted, "Ethiopia is a diverse nation well-known as a land of peace and religious tolerance, with a longstanding heritage of peaceful co-existence." Then the Unity Earth guests delivered speeches on their great diversity. The Unity Earth 'Keeper of the Flame Award' was presented to Mussie Hailu for his outstanding contribution in the fields of Interfaith Dialogue, Peace Building and Social Inclusion. This was followed by a flag ceremony with fifty Ethiopian children raising the flags of all the nations of the world with the prayer, "May peace prevail on Earth". This beautiful and moving ceremony concluded with the children and delegates holding the flags of the continent of Africa, followed by the Unity Earth indigenous representatives bearing a special flag of the indigenous nations. The U Nite concert on February 3 brought together musicians of many different national cultures and faith traditions at the Villa Verde in Addis Ababa. The Unity Earth group celebrated its diversity in musical praise with a dancing rabbi, a drumming Sufi, and everyone united through the joy of music. The performers also took part in a one-hour radio interview on the Ethiopia Broadcast Corporation to promote the U Day Festival. Simultaneously, an online live global meditation led by Dr David Nicol of the Gaiafield Network attracted hundreds of participants across Hear tfulne ss 18 In t er faith the globe (http://udayfestival.org/ convergence-of-fire). People of goodwill around the planet were invited to help 'light' the Global Torch of One Love with their collective presence and prayers for planetary healing. This torch is intended to carry the spiritual energy of many global healing initiatives, representing millions of people, and will be lit at the subsequent U Day festivals planned between now and 2022. The culmination of the U Day Festival was a voyage south to Shashamane, the territory originally set aside by Emperor Haile Selassie for the practitioners of the Rastafari religious community that gifted the world with Jamaican Reggae music. Shashamane leaders welcomed the U Day delegates and brought them to see community improvement projects, including a school under construction. Everyone gathered at the Temple of the Twelve Tribes of Israel, where a ceremony of 'uniting the tribes' was led by members of diverse faiths in demonstration of a world of interfaith harmony to come, where every religion is respected and all peoples are honored. On the night of February 6, an outdoor Earthstrong concert was held as a fundraising event and the U Day delegates returned to Addis This journey of the heart demonstrated beyond any doubt that when people of goodwill gather together with the joy and conviction of their individual religious and spiritual traditions, they will produce a 'Convergence of Fire', igniting a Global Fire of One Love. Ababa as a community bonded in a love that transcended their deep commitment to their own religions, traditions and spiritual paths. This jour ne y of the hear t demonstrated beyond any doubt that when people of goodwill gather together with the joy and conviction of their individual religious and spiritual traditions, they will produce a 'Convergence of Fire', igniting a Global Fire of One Love. Unity Earth will continue its efforts to bring people together in glorious diversity through faith and music with upcoming U Day festivals in India and Jerusalem, plus a Road to 2020 caravan across the United States to culminate in a major concert in New York City on the International Day of Peace, September 21, 2020. Sept ember 2018 19 Conscious means "having an awareness of one's inner and outer worlds; mentally perceptive, awake, mindful." So "conscious business" might mean engaging in an occupation, work, or trade in a mindful, awake fashion. Ken Wilbur thought in action It is time we respect each other, look at every one as a brother or sister, and realize that every man, woman and child has something to teach us. IT IS TIME TO ACT BIGGER, THINK BIGGER AND BE BIGGER! LE SSONS IN A Divided World: Empathy CHRIS MEHALOVICH reflects on some examples of empathy and gratitude around him in daily life, and challenges us all to be more empathetic. T he other day while shopping I noticed a boy of around eight years old who had braces on his legs and who used a walker to get around. The boy was smiling as he spoke with his mother and seemed very happy. My immediate thought was one of empathy for him, followed by a feeling of gratitude for the wonderful life I have. This beautiful boy has what most would deem a terrible affliction and yet he still smiles. What he will teach in his lifetime is what most of us dream of. Each and everyone who glances his way will feel immediate empathy, and realize a fantastic lesson in love, humility and gratitude. His positive ripples will affect thousands throughout his life. God bless him! While greatly effective, his lesson is easy to see and feel. Many more lessons exist on a daily basis in our world; we just need to take off the blinders to see them. If you turn on the news you will see lessons in empathy in every story, but you have to look deep as most stories are negative, told with a sensationalist slant, and certainly do not make us feel good. One current example is in the sporting world: standing or kneeling during the National Anthem. Which is right and which is wrong? We hear each side stating that the other is wrong, condemning and pointing fingers. There is nothing positive, no solutions, just dense negativity. If we look at the bigger picture we would see this as a huge lesson in empathy. What if I had a close relative in the armed forces who fought in a war, watched his friends get injured or killed and came home suffering with mental issues due to PTSD? On the flip side, what if I had a dear friend or family member who was ridiculed, beaten or killed by an officer of the law for having different skin pigmentation? It is time we learn to walk in the shoes of others; all others. You see we all have different perceptions of life based on our past experiences, our upbringing, our lifestyle, our education and where we were born geographically. It is time we respect each other, look at every one as a brother or sister, and realize that every man, woman and child has something to teach us. It is time to act bigger, think bigger and be bigger! Empathy Sept ember 2018 23 In the previous articles of this series, RAVI VENKATESAN explored factors that influence the outcomes of our negotiations. Many times, we are not even aware of these. We discussed how prior disposition comes into play, coloring our approach even before we begin. We reviewed how feelings and emotions in the heart vacillate between opposites, making us take positions that are not in our best interest. We also looked at how our ego, intellect and mind create their own distractions. In this final article, we'll bring it all together and evolve a simple and comprehensive checklist that you can use for your negotiations. PRIOR DISPOSITION Before any negotiation, take a snapshot of your prior disposition using the following steps. 1. Gently close your eyes. 2. Bring your attention to the lower left side of your chest (approximately where you feel your heartbeat). There is no need to pinpoint an exact location. 3. Ask yourself the following questions and spend a couple of minutes in introspection: What are my strongest likes and dislikes? What are my strongest desires and aspirations? Love vs Anger Greed vs Contentment Worries and Concerns Desires Likes and Dislike Guilt Fear vs Courage Peace vs Restlessness Clarity vs Doubt Ego perception - Me vs We Intellect - Logic and Reason Mind - Ad hoc ideas and wandering FEELINGS & EMOTIONS PRIOR DISPOSITION THOUGHTS & IDEAS Bringing it all together heartfulness NE GOTIATOR PART 8 The Hear tfulne ss 24 What am I worried or concerned about? What do I feel guilty about or regret? What do I want more of ? What is making me restless? What is creating anger, irritation, frustration or annoyance in me? What makes me feel afraid or anxious? 4. It's okay if you don't have answers to all these questions. Just jot down whatever comes to your mind in a couple of minutes. Your prior disposition will bring to your awareness what is important for you. It will also alert you to what may color your judgment, as you get into this negotiation. As you start working through your negotiation, to manage your emotions effectively, and understand and work with the emotions of your counterparts, keep the following brief checklist in your mind. 1. Am I being greedy or overreaching? Is my counterpart doing this? 2. Am I getting restless and distracted? Is my counterpart doing this? 3. Am I getting irritated, frustrated, annoyed or angry? Is my counterpart doing this? 4. Am I getting anxious? Is my counterpart doing this? 5. Do I feel confused or unclear? Does my counterpart seem confused? Just by keeping these 5 simple things in mind, you will become more effective at managing emotions as you negotiate. Also, keep in mind the core concerns from Beyond Reason by Daniel Shapiro and Roger Fisher: appreciation, affiliation, autonomy, role and status. These are common concerns for everyone and impact negotiations at a non-rational level. As you move into your head, remember that your intellect is a wonderful tool at analyzing information and making decisions, but it has no moral compass. Make sure that you filter what your intellect evaluates by using your heart. Your ego is constantly updating your mental model of yourself versus others. Ensure that you don't fall into the traps of arrogance, excessive feelings of self-importance, or for that matter the opposite, a feeling of inferiority. Finally, be alert to the wanderings of the mind. Refocus by taking a minute if needed. You can also use techniques like meditation to ensure that your mind will always be focused and attentive, as it should be. As with anything else, practice makes perfect. Enjoy the journey as you incorporate these concepts and become a truly Heartful Negotiator, who develops trust, builds relationships and generates win-win outcomes. After any negotiation, reflect and see if that win-win feeling was created. Busine ss relationship s Sept ember 2018 25 JAMIE BUTLER, healer and medium, founded The Lighter Side Network over a year ago. Here she speaks with EMMA IVATURI about consciousness, belief, feeling stuck, growing pains, intuition and synchronicity. Q Can you elaborate on how the brain works as a receptor and filter for the countless vibrations around us every moment? JB Our brain is not just an organ that runs neurons and sends messages throughout our body. It is also a great transmitter and receiver, much like a radio. In fact, many of our thoughts are not originally ours, but come because of our ability to receive the energy vibrations from all around us. Working this way, our brain can easily be overwhelmed and bombarded with information. Our ability to focus on what we want to attract is how we filter out all the unwanted vibrations on a daily basis. But it is also the way we are able to attract all the things we don't desire, because we spend time worrying, living in fear and feeling victimized. What you are focused on is what your energy field resonates with. Like attracts like. Let's say you are pretending to 'play small', whether you are pretending to be a mouse or you are pulling in your great charisma to allow someone else to shine. When you do this, you are saying you are willing to receive all the energy around you from people, from the room, from conversations, from the history of the room, from plants and animals that match this version of 'playing small', even though it is not your true nature. The energy you are receiving is going to be the energy you are putting out. We can see now the vicious cycle this can create. We can take this in another direction too. Let's say you are pretending to be confident, to earn a position at work or to impress a love interest. You adopt a confident posture and spoken language and your energy patterns follow suit. Now, your energy field is vibrating with confidence. All the worry energy in the room is unlikely to vibrate with you any more hence you won't receive it nor process it. Vibrations Hear tfulne ss 26 Consciousne ss Sept ember 2018 27 Through my decades of working with subtle light energy, techniques are nothing unless we believe in them. It is time to detangle ourselves from being triggered to stay within the same patterns that hold us hostage. Hear tfulne ss 28 I like this example better. Even reading it allows my energy to fluff up and feel better, however, I have free will and can immediately change this feeling by thinking of all the difficult situations in life and at work. As soon as I begin to focus on all the things going 'wrong', I vibrate with things going wrong. I air-quote the word 'wrong' because I don't necessarily believe there is a right or a wrong, but this is the way we use our language to express the situations we don't want. To help filter and attract the vibrations needed to grow, we must be conscious of our energy. This means being aware of our intent, emotions, thoughts and imagination. What are they expressing? What are they attracting? This simple act gives us insight into the subtle light world around, which is constantly offering information to better our lives. Q Our conscious experience is but a small bandwidth of what we pick up on. How can we expand our awareness to integrate information we perceive less clearly that would otherwise create a cognitive dissonance? JB Expanding our bandwidth of consciousness begins with understanding who we believe we are. In this current lifetime, our body is our instrument and our belief systems are the dial to broaden or narrow how we use this instrument. If we want to receive more clarity it is time to get into the gray areas, to step away from right or wrong, black and white, and the learned belief systems that are not working for us. Through my decades of working with subtle light energy, techniques are nothing unless we believe in them. It is time to detangle ourselves from being triggered to stay within the same patterns that hold us hostage. Next time you feel stuck try this: Center your energy into a neutral space. You can do this through a few minutes of steady breathing. Imagine you are without any attachment. Seriously, use that incredible imagination of yours! Imagination and intuition are roommates and share the same space. When you engage your imagination you are creating more room for intuition to use. Once you can imagine that there is any possible outcome, you are allowing new truths to enter into your consciousness. Mantras can help you create a single focus and allow different energies to come into your energy field to create the changes you are seeking. The mantra I use is: deep breath, re-access, change your perspective. Another mantra is: if you want to remain constant, always change. From this space begin to assess the images and messages coming to you. Please keep disciplining the monkey mind to stay in the 'gray' and un-triggered by the images and messages. Grab a pencil and paper and start to document what is coming through. Once you are done writing, walk away. If you can go into nature, allow the outdoors to calm and soothe your energy while continuing to hold the flow of ideas expanding your understanding, connection and energy. When you are activating your body with movement, you are helping these energies to merge with your new discoveries and belief systems. When you feel full or done, go back to writing and jot down your discoveries. Be sure to write keywords that will reconnect you with the 'ah- ha' moments. Re-read your notes frequently. This will help you incorporate your discoveries instead of them being fleeting moments. Consciousne ss Sept ember 2018 29 Q Sometimes we misread the growing pains as we outgrow our current circumstances and are pushed into the next level of evolution. Perhaps the next step may not be clear and a leap of faith is needed to let go and surrender to where we're going. How do you bridge the gap between these life phases? JB Bridging the gap between life phases requires the art of acceptance, kindness and surrender. Each shift in our evolution is asking for us to change our beliefs. This can be a tremendous burden to the ego and the heart. I have noticed in the last 27 years of being a medium, there are certain ideals to which we hold strong culturally: these include gaining knowledge, loyalty and politeness. These ideals often lead us into shame and dissonance. When we are trained to value these ideals we create suffering and pain when it is time to grow. Let's look at acceptance, kindness and surrender, and how these three actions can shift our cultural ideals and ease our way while we are becoming enlightened. When we are taught acceptance from a young age, we transcend loyalty to provide self-care, we transcend the need to gain knowledge with the comfort of the unknown, and we transcend politeness to find authenticity over. When we show kindness to ourselves, we find that loyalty is actually an expression of love not discipline, the act of gaining knowledge is an expression of curiosity, and the use of politeness is the desire to create peace. When we surrender, our truth is found. Surrendering allows us to accept not only possible outcomes but also the very real impossible outcomes. It allows us to walk away from loyalty when it was created out of guilt, regret or fear, and break commitments that no longer serve us. Surrendering allows us to stop comparing and contrasting our every move, to understand who we are and look at the very deep inner light for guidance. It also allows us to see that true politeness can be based in honesty and not the lens of praise. When life presents you with chaos, congested energy, a feeling of being stuck, hitting walls or whatever you feel awful about, reach in and pull out acceptance, kindness When life presents you with chaos, congested energy, a feeling of being stuck, hitting walls or whatever you feel awful about, reach in and pull out acceptance, kindness and surrender and see where the nudge takes you. I bet you will find there is ease to this enlightenment. I trust you will begin to notice how the world around you is supporting you. Consciousne ss Hear tfulne ss 30 and surrender and see where the nudge takes you. I bet you will find there is ease to this enlightenment. I trust you will begin to notice how the world around you is supporting you. Q Can you speak about the energies we take on from other people and act out with them in relation to our own character work? JBWhen we are in communication with someone else it is natural for us to connect to them empathically. This helps us understand them. Our own energy will mimic what the other person's energy is vibrating and therefore we will hold their pattern in our energy field. Sometimes people will continue to hold that pattern even after the communication is over. They can even take on other person's energy. I have seen through the years of working as a medium and healer that we are emotional beings. Our first and foremost ability is to feel emotionally: the rest of life follows suit. Once we can identify that we are emotional beings, we begin to observe the amount of energy it takes to maintain our emotions. Everything we do, think and feel is all empowered by energy. Our chakra system, the energetic highways and byways, contains all the possible energetic vibrations and the way we use our emotions dictates the responses of the chakras. Knowing this we can see how natural it is for us to be empathic, having the ability to connect to how others feel. Empathy is a powerful tool but sometimes misused. When we are feeling what another is going through, we often come to believe it is ourselves feeling this way. Our brain is not trained to ask, "Is this feeling mine?" so we begin to believe whatever we are feeling must belong to Sept ember 2018 31 Synchronicities pop up in our life when we are agreeing to align ourselves with our truth, that is, when we are 'in the flow'. For me, synchronicities are not road signs directing us to change directions, but gentle reminders to stay the course. Hear tfulne ss 32 us. However, I feel there is no guideline on the kind of work we need to do to evolve. There is no one judging your performance except you. This life is a very personal experience and only you can decide what needs to be done to reach the goals you have aligned for yourself. The only true common denominator I can speak to is our ability to feel emotions and have our needs met. Q How can we cultivate a more natural alignment to our intuition? JB Start building your trust with your intuition through these little activities: THE REAL YES AND NO Take the time to acknowledge how your five senses react to the words 'yes' and 'no'. What color, feeling, location, sensation, taste, sound and more do these words evoke in you? You can use simple yes or no questions to engage your intuition on the myriad of decisions you make on a daily basis. DOCUMENTATION PLEASE Write down in a list all the intuitive experiences you have throughout the day, even if they are very small and do not seem to be worth much. At the end of the day, go back and put a checkmark next to the ones that played out to be accurate with good insight. You might find it is a full day or week later before you get your validation. Having this on paper allows your brain to see it documented. WORD ASSOCIATION Pay attention to your words. Most of the time we're trying to express our intuition, yet our language does not provide accurate words to convey it. Words like 'lucky', 'coincidence', 'bright idea', 'ah-ha' are all indicators of intuition. Be confident to share information without knowing the source of its origin. For that is a very intuitive thing! TRUST FALL Building trust in your intuition allows it to be stronger. When you find yourself doubting, step back. Claim your intuitive place as a no-doubt zone! When you are doubting, you are not connecting and you are not trusting your experience. Step back, take a breath, and begin to ask very simple yes and no questions about what you are experiencing. BE EFFORTLESS Intuition does not need you. As soon as you insert your voice, you could be wanting to control, compare, contrast and measure your intuition as if it were a logical experience. When you let go and become effortless with answers or intuition, your accuracy level increases. Q How do synchronicities point us in the right direction in our lives? What are some you've experienced? JB Synchronicities pop up in our life when we are agreeing to align ourselves with our truth, that is, when we are 'in the flow'. For me, synchronicities are not road signs directing us to change directions, but gentle reminders to stay the course. Synchronicities have helped me create my businesses, especially The Lighter Side Network. I did not have a vision to create an online network, but the universe kept putting people in my path who brought out the creative in me. Once I acknowledged this, I began to see my path clearly. The Lighter Side Network is now over one year old and growing. www.jamiebutlermedium.com www.thelightersidenetwork.com www.withloveandlight.com Consciousne ss Sept ember 2018 33 And suddenly we find ourselves in the midst of the world, yet undisturbed by its multiplicity, for in our innermost soul we know ourselves to be one with all being. Hermann Hesse A personal Journey Par t 1 Spirit Matters Podcast is a very popular site showcasing an eclectic mix of talks about contemporary spirituality. The hosts are DENNIS RAIMONDI and PHILIP GOLDBERG. On 1 July 2018, together they interviewed DAAJI about his life, spirituality and his new book, The Heartfulness Way. Here we highlight excerpts from the interview. DENNIS RAIMONDI PHILIP GOLDBERG KAMLESH PATEL Hear tfulne ss 36 DR This is Dennis Raimondi with my co-host, Philip Goldberg, author of The Life and Times of Yogananda, and our guest today from India is Kamlesh D. Patel, known to many as Daaji. He teaches Heartfulness Meditation from his personal experience as a devoted student of spirituality. He's gone from his work as a pharmacist to a spiritual seeker and teacher, and we are very excited to speak with him today. So Daaji, thank you so very much for taking the time to come on, and I want to mention your latest book, The Heartfulness Way. PG Welcome Daaji, you came to our attention through mutual friends, and you have an interesting life. Why don't you fill in our listeners before we get into your new book and Heartfulness Meditation? Tell us how you came to become a teacher of meditation. You were born in India, you lived in America, and you're a pharmacist by trade. Give us a little bit about that history. DAAJI Wel l, I was born in India, as you said. I was educated here and then I studied and got my license to practice in two states, in New York State as well as in California. I started a pharmacy career in Brooklyn, and over a period of time, over 30 years, I must have started almost 20 drugstores. And my way, my spiritual path began a long time back. We don't know when we begin but officially, to my senses, it began when I started under the guidance of a person known as Babuji in 1976. That was the beginning of my spiritual journey, which I continued after coming to the US in 1981 also. I would give equal importance to both to my spiritual practice as well as to the business world. Everything was intermingled, and that's how it should be. Nature has created us with a purpose and not to run away from things. So I took both things as a challenge business as well as the spiritual world and tried to do my best in both fields. So this is who I am: I am always a spiritual seeker. On the way, I am fully committed to those who would like to travel with us, experience what we do. And this Heartfulness Way practice that is offered to every spiritual seeker: if you are willing to meditate, this is the way. And here the most magnificent thing that happens with this way is Pranahuti or Transmission, which is a unique feature of this. I have heard about Phil from a friend and from another gentleman who forwarded me some of your videos. So now it rings a bell while I'm listening to you, Phil, your association directly and indirectly with Yogananda. It makes me very happy that you are exposed to meditation. I am always a spiritual seeker. On the way, I am fully committed to those who would like to travel with us, experience what we do. Spirit matt er s Sept ember 20
In this issue, our writers explore questions about human evolution and consciousness, including the final article in the Ashtanga Yoga series on the eighth limb, Samadhi, the topic of ‘Who Am I?’ and synchronicity. We bring you Daaji’s interview by the hosts of Spirit Matters Podcast, Dennis Raimondi and Philip Goldberg, and also the concluding part of the interview with French artist Fabienne Verdier. There are articles on fear and grief, the benefits of reading, and another inspiring lesson from the garden.
Heartfulness : Living by the HeartBy tuning in to our heart, we learn to be centered in our highest self. Strengthen that connection and cultivate an inner knowing that wisely directs and guides our lives. Grow to face the challenges of life with courage and acceptance. Live by the heart, and become what we’re meant to be.
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